One of these days, I will write about something other than marriage. I will wax eloquent about DC traffic and church politics and the joys of a large bowl of ice cream paired with a fashion show. But for now, this dominates my thoughts.
I have 5 sets of friends who got married this past weekend. The weddings were all glorious – beautiful, celebratory, filled with the gospel. The bride and groom glowed and the parents cried and there was much laughter. I rejoice with these couples; with the newness of life and the promises made. I gladly stand alongside friends and take their vows along with them, acknowledging that now, more than ever, marriage requires community support. Which is why this article stirs up some of the deepest anger and sadness within me.
There are numerous points of the article that upset me, but mostly it’s the attitude that the author takes to marriage. She concludes the memoir by saying:
In any case, here’s my final piece of advice: avoid marriage—or you too may suffer the emotional pain, the humiliation, and the logistical difficulty, not to mention the expense, of breaking up a long-term union at midlife for something as demonstrably fleeting as love.”
I have a variety of thoughts on the article, but I would love to hear yours. Please read the article and let me know your reactions.